Monday, April 13, 2009

Peace, my little man

When I attended the presidential inaugural celebration at Susan's house last January, I got the chance to finally meet in person a fellow Oklahoma blogger I had been following online.

Although I can't say Shana and I are close friends, I liked her immediately, and we even made time to have lunch together since then. She had recently given birth to her third child and has a great sense of humor about life with three little ones.

Best of all, she let me hold her beautiful baby boy Thalon, and smell his wonderful baby smell.

It breaks my heart to announce Thalon's passing. I don't know any of the details, just what Shana has put on her blog. I hope you'll go there, stranger or no, and let her know that her family is in your thoughts and prayers, as they are in mine.

19 comments:

Anonymous said...

Her last post literally haunted me...I can not imagine the pain in her heart.
Thoughts and prayers for her family.
Meg
Milford

Pam D said...

Heartbroken and praying for her... and praying that you'll be able to find concrete ways to help her through the coming hurricane in her life. I'm sorry...

Lucy and Ethel said...

I'm so sorry you had to share this but glad you did.

'Lucy' (mom to an angel baby)

Renee said...

Wrong....
It makes me physically sick. I am so sad...

raino said...

oh...so sorry for the loss of that child. it's just not right.

Anonymous said...

OMG...that is awful. It makes me sick! :( Kim

kimi said...

“A wife who loses her husband is called a widow, a husband who loses a wife is called a widower, a child who loses his parents is called an orphan, but there is no word for a parent who loses a child, that's how awful the loss is."

This was from a Caringbridge page of a brave young man, Adam Wisdom, who earned his angel wings this week. His little brother is in my kids' school...Adam was a junior in high school.

It is a sad week.


Kim

Anonymous said...

It is a very sad week. This family lost their precious baby too. Pray for all of them.

http://remembermaddie.com

Karen

Jeanette in GA said...

Just can't imagine what that must be like.

I need to go hug my kids.

M said...

You know Kristie, as sick as it is, I think when your kid has cancer and everyday you think, "this could be it," - at least you had a chance to say good byes and prepare yourself for the end....but when a child is snatched away just like that, (SIDS?)it seems extra cruel. Not that cancer isn't cruel....but the seed is planted in your head that your child may die anytime....not like what happened to her...she was blogging about her kids one day and the next...bam!

My deepest sympathies to you and your friend and her family.

Kristi said...

M~
My sister lost her firstborn to SIDS. With cancer you have a chance to say your goodbyes but my sister always felt blessed that her baby boy fell asleep and that was it. He was smiley and happy when she saw him last. There was no pain. I don't think one way is probably better than the other. A mother losing a child is just heartbreaking no matter what. Bless Shana's heart and I hope her other children keep her heart and her arms extra full on those days that her heart is literally breaking for her baby. :*(

Kathryn said...

I can't go there. Thirty years ago we said good-bye to our Dan, and I can not bring myself to read of another child lost. I am so very sorry for that family, and for you. God's Peace.

Anonymous said...

Kristie I am a blog follower of your and when i read this i cried I went to her blog and started reading her blog and laughed and times and then got to this postand was so sad that she would even post this ( if you scroll threw her posts you will find this post about her baby .... I know I can get back to "just because" if this little fucker angel would just quit screaming. The end.

how could you write this about a child?

Anonymous said...

To anonymous...

How could you judge a mother that lost just lost her baby? FYI, that post was written tongue in cheek and if you read her posting style you would understand that wasn't a dig on her baby at all. And I just started reading the blog too, the mother is very witty, very funny, likes a good swear word and above all, she loves her children and is devestated at the horrible loss of her son. Go pick on someone else.

Rita

lynne said...

I was so sorry to hear about Thalon as well. So cruel.

Berly said...

For anyone who's interested, you can find a place to donate to help Shana out with medical bills and funeral expenses. Go to www.talkingthroughthehat.blogspot.com. Every cent helps.

gorillabuns said...

When I wrote this so-called "off-color" remark about my child when you scrolled threw(which is incorrectly spelled by the way) my archives, it was tongue and check and written out of sheer frustration of a colicky child (3rd child in fact with this infliction) that screamed for hours on end. I'm guessing you've never had this problem and have never been at your wits ends while suffering from post-partum depression and the like. If you were to know me in real life and I doubt you would want to, you would know, I AM a kind, caring and most of all loving mother whom at times says things that may offend but nonetheless says things that other mothers feel. I speak for mother's who feel if they voiced their own frustrations and the true realities of child rearing and the such, they too would be called out and attacked as a heartless mother who didn't have the right to air out their feelings. People who attack based on words said in a moment of despair, obviously live in glass houses in which everything is shiny and prestine. I do not. Good for you that you do. just so you know, I would give ANYTHING to have my precious child back in my arms screaming his lungs out rather than finding him dead breathing every breath of my life back into his DEAD body. May you never begin to ever know the heartbreak and utter dispair i feel over the loss of my child and may you never know that words from a complete stranger that read 10 posts back, not 4 years worth, say something so insensitive, cold and heartless. May you never know how it feels to pull the breathing tube out of your brain dead baby's body, holding him while died AGAIN and feel that your life has no meaning. May God bless you and keep you from experiencing something so horrible.

Kelly said...

My heart is breaking for this family. I can't even imagine.

Noelle said...

The fact that the poster who left that horrid, insensitive comment about Shana's blog left it ANONYMOUSLY says even more about her than the comment itself. The anonymous commenter is one in a million--and how sad for her to stand out because of her thoughtlessness in a time when thousands are rallying in support.