tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post8898112838907561021..comments2023-07-22T04:25:04.122-05:00Comments on Not Quite What I Had Planned: Part of a Group … at LastKristiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18325715096763265816noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-56060452164702545852008-03-20T10:37:00.000-05:002008-03-20T10:37:00.000-05:00Lets just say, that I know how you feel on the mon...Lets just say, that I know how you feel on the money question! I have been asked if you and Blaine paid me for Brayden and I have also been accused of "selling" my baby! <BR/><BR/>MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-2001524892558665182008-03-19T19:14:00.000-05:002008-03-19T19:14:00.000-05:00As a foster parent and an adoptive parent, I've al...As a foster parent and an adoptive parent, I've also been asked the money questions. Sometimes they're from people who are wanting to do the same thing and trying to figure out if they can make it work in their lives and sometimes they're just plain nosey. In face to face conversations, I find it easier to discern the asker's motivation.<BR/><BR/>I feel like I'm refreshing often hoping to find the next chapter. So...carry on!<BR/><BR/>DixieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-22551416637683621782008-03-19T18:43:00.000-05:002008-03-19T18:43:00.000-05:00Being one who has total "Lack of class" and asked ...Being one who has total "Lack of class" and asked about financial compensation years ago, it wasnt about wanting to know what Kristie "made" giving birth to another couples baby, as much as it was my curiosity about the whole process. I didnt realize at the time that asking about it was rude and insensitive of me. I think it depends on the context. If people are asking because they want to judge a person for why they may do such a thing - that is one thing. But, if asking out of pure curiousity and amazement with the whole journey, isnt that different? Although, I suppose the question would make the surrogate feel just as uncomfortable either way - because the question does imply that it the person asking it feels that the monetary compensation is the motivating factor. Kristie, if I could back up I wouldnt have asked you about that back when you were carrying the twins! Love ErinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-39916221909282927172008-03-19T17:48:00.000-05:002008-03-19T17:48:00.000-05:00Thanks for continuing the story!!CindyVirginiaThanks for continuing the story!!<BR/><BR/>Cindy<BR/>VirginiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-72486710010673130582008-03-19T14:17:00.000-05:002008-03-19T14:17:00.000-05:00Thank you for sharing your unique journey. Everyth...Thank you for sharing your unique journey. Everything is something I would never have a clue about otherwise.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16036374022323687122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-68844760625276188872008-03-19T10:23:00.000-05:002008-03-19T10:23:00.000-05:00Gosh, I can't imagine anyone asking about the mone...Gosh, I can't imagine anyone asking about the money involved in surrogacy; it's like walking up to someone that you DON'T know well and saying something like "Well, just HOW much DO you make at that job of yours?"....like, the ultimate in LACK OF CLASS and poor taste, in my opinion. Having said that, I don't mean to offend any of you who might have been so curious as to ask - I just know that it would've NEVER have been something I would ask. Kristie's right - even church pastors get paid, and they aren't risking their life and health. And, as soon as she said the dreaded word "hysterosalpingogram", I knew that I would never have had the courage to do a surrogacy - having had ONE of those nasty little "procedures" myself and having NOT enjoyed it one bit - especially after my older sister had said to me "Oh, they're a piece of cake!"!!!! Piece of cake - she jinxed it for me, I guess. At any rate, it HURT! But, I digress. Kristie - I'm enjoying every minute of your surrogacy story - but don't put it out there unless you're enjoying doing so - well, that's my 2 cents worth, anyway!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-29058263682830248112008-03-19T09:50:00.000-05:002008-03-19T09:50:00.000-05:00Thank you for continuing with your story. I find ...Thank you for continuing with your story. I find it very interesting and think you are an incredible woman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-62351498765141113892008-03-19T09:22:00.000-05:002008-03-19T09:22:00.000-05:00Wow, just wow. For those of us totally oblivious ...Wow, just wow. For those of us totally oblivious to the world of surrogates this is all fascinating. Thanks for sharing your story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-67136749303228710092008-03-19T08:36:00.000-05:002008-03-19T08:36:00.000-05:00Awe...don't leave us hanging!!! I want to hear mor...Awe...don't leave us hanging!!! I want to hear more!!! so glad you are continuing the story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-79290914220842803112008-03-19T08:24:00.000-05:002008-03-19T08:24:00.000-05:00I'm loving reading about your surrogacy journey. ...I'm loving reading about your surrogacy journey. I think it takes a very special person to do what you have done and can't wait to read the rest of the journey.<BR/>BrianaThe Traveling Yogihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13006993240317444809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-65030723858177599252008-03-19T07:39:00.000-05:002008-03-19T07:39:00.000-05:00Ok, first let me say THANK YOU! for continuing the...Ok, first let me say THANK YOU! for continuing the story despite those rude nosy people. I have friends who do foster care and they often are accused of doing it "for the money" (yeah, $12/day is really gonna take them far! haha!). Anyways, rude people aside, I think most will agree that we can't wait to hear the good stuff (match meeting, finding out it took, seeing the IPs hold thier new baby), and have no desire to know about any compensation or other such matters. <BR/><BR/>That said, these support group meetings sound like a blast!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com