tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post5900441173912884113..comments2023-07-22T04:25:04.122-05:00Comments on Not Quite What I Had Planned: Genuinely CuriousKristiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18325715096763265816noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-58635263927450454332008-05-07T20:53:00.000-05:002008-05-07T20:53:00.000-05:00Oh, good luck with that one!! I am really not sure...Oh, good luck with that one!! I am really not sure what I would do. My husband does own his own business and I think I would have been more offended if someone did/does call his competitors. Now, mind you it isn't a flower shop, but like you say, maybe the shop is closed out of respect for their family member/boss. If that is the case, maybe it would be okay. Oh, I live in a very small town so I would just go order a bunch of sandwich trays from the local Subway and drop food off at her families house instead of sending flowers to the funeral home. <BR/>Wendy in Winder, GAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-63175397769891086252008-05-07T18:21:00.000-05:002008-05-07T18:21:00.000-05:00hmm.. I am of no help with the funeral flower issu...hmm.. I am of no help with the funeral flower issue although I can see us having a similar issue in the future as my family goes way back with our favorite florist! <BR/><BR/>Love the idea you guys came up with for Brayden! That is a great way to celebrate her strengths!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-19405367596137791022008-05-07T16:13:00.000-05:002008-05-07T16:13:00.000-05:00For SURE I would make a donation to pediatric canc...For SURE I would make a donation to pediatric cancer (as I always do anyway - whenever appropriate to acknowledged anything) - possibly leukemia to PROVE what a sincere gesture you are making. Personal - not tacky like flowers -and far more respectful.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-74351470309264011142008-05-07T14:05:00.000-05:002008-05-07T14:05:00.000-05:00I'd probably do as other posters have mentioned an...I'd probably do as other posters have mentioned and send a card and donation. And, I think that your solution to the knighting dilema is just perfect.... Hope you have a great time in your role as proud momma over the next few days!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-79347891817869691782008-05-07T13:27:00.000-05:002008-05-07T13:27:00.000-05:00Ooh, a quandry! I'm voting for LizInSumner's comm...Ooh, a quandry! I'm voting for LizInSumner's comment. :-)<BR/><BR/>Totally off the subject, but I originally typed LizInSummer and I started wondering, "Who is she in winter? Does she become ElizabethInWinter?" So I double-checked her name before I hit post and lo and behold, she's not LizInSummer at all, she lives in Sumner! Ha!Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01436000954617741702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-69888120314410344692008-05-07T09:49:00.000-05:002008-05-07T09:49:00.000-05:00I wouldn't even know where to begin with this one....I wouldn't even know where to begin with this one...Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10576933240686141039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-7702356307601993082008-05-07T09:19:00.000-05:002008-05-07T09:19:00.000-05:00Kristie, I would avoid the flowers all together an...Kristie, I would avoid the flowers all together and take a card with money for a memorial in it. And always include an handwritten, personal note. You cant go wrong with that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-19906590040152369662008-05-07T09:17:00.000-05:002008-05-07T09:17:00.000-05:00Wow.. that is a tough question..What about somethi...Wow.. that is a tough question..<BR/>What about something other than flowers.. cause really.. flowers+funeral=tacky!<BR/>There are always so many flowers..and they just die!! :)<BR/>I really like the idea about a letter.. even though you may not have known her personally. You can always make something up!! :) and its a sweet story about your mom getting flowers on the day you were born from her. or a donation.. or both.. don't do flowers.. unless your heart is completely set on it! Wow.. i probably wasn't any help at all.. sorry!! :)Ryley @ That's My Family!https://www.blogger.com/profile/17823455150556488287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-85351113187422046902008-05-07T09:13:00.000-05:002008-05-07T09:13:00.000-05:00Kristie,I am pretty sure the daughter will not be ...Kristie,<BR/><BR/>I am pretty sure the daughter will not be working, and out of respect the shop should be closed. Afterall their mother and boss (not to mention the owner of the shop) just died. I would definitely donate money in her name but if the shop was open, I would order something special that they normally don't do. Like maybe a picture to donate to the family, or some keepsake, etc... defintely not funeral flowers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-69560248418803309482008-05-07T09:08:00.000-05:002008-05-07T09:08:00.000-05:00What a dilemna! Depending on your budget, since t...What a dilemna! Depending on your budget, since this woman obviously loved flowers and presumably trees, maybe you could have a tree planted in a local park in her honor. It can be somewhat costly so you may want to go in with others. Some friends and I have done this when a parent dies and it has always been very much appreciated.<BR/>Diane in CincinnatiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-76289379550256878222008-05-07T07:32:00.000-05:002008-05-07T07:32:00.000-05:00Wow, I don't know what I would do there. Maybe ca...Wow, I don't know what I would do there. Maybe call her shop and simply ask them if they would have time to prepare the arrangement. If they do not, maybe the employee could suggest a place you should order from??Stacie from MNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16593280395250175507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-44941844958134701342008-05-07T06:17:00.000-05:002008-05-07T06:17:00.000-05:00I'd probably pay for flowers and tell them to just...I'd probably pay for flowers and tell them to just send a card...shop gets the money and there was no work involved. I think it might be odd to get flowers from a competitor, very odd, especially at a funeral.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-36040643136149392642008-05-07T06:09:00.000-05:002008-05-07T06:09:00.000-05:00Love that you can come up with a question that I'v...Love that you can come up with a question that I've never thought of. I love the idea of a card or note - you are such a great writer anyway. Here's my aside about the flowers from someone else. My guess is in semi-small town the florists probably all know each other and probably aren't cut throat evil competitors. The other florists might also take great pride and honor in making a flower arrangement for this person.<BR/><BR/>As for Brayden - my total sympathies. Don't beat yourself up about losing your cool. It's happened many times as the Hyzy house and we all survive. Great idea about the concert. Yes to giving Brayden a small bouquet of flowers. We always did that after Brenna's piano recitals and seemed to get a kick out of it.<BR/><BR/>Lastly, shoe scuffing has been known to cause my head to pop off and me to snatch shoes off my children's feet! Kidding, but not by much!<BR/>Hang in there, my mother claims that in about 7-8 years (Brenna is 15) we'll be best friends. :o)Hyzymomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13840256459295668831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-34695571069727447862008-05-07T05:34:00.000-05:002008-05-07T05:34:00.000-05:00I'd send a card. Personally, it was the cards and ...I'd send a card. Personally, it was the cards and the thoughts expressed in them that meant the most to me when my mother passed away.Danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00611826061959537166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-22388981036759061482008-05-06T22:32:00.000-05:002008-05-06T22:32:00.000-05:00Kristie,You don't suck, parenting sucks! In a goo...Kristie,<BR/>You don't suck, parenting sucks! In a good way, of course. There is no easy way to shelter yet teach your kids life lessons. You are doing a great job.<BR/>Re: former florist - i would check the obit and see where the donations were being requested to and send $ there instead of flowers. they always die....<BR/>mary cron s.<BR/>crosslake/san diegoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-1703299667221688412008-05-06T22:18:00.000-05:002008-05-06T22:18:00.000-05:00Kristie, I would probably not send flowers to her ...Kristie, I would probably not send flowers to her funeral via her own shop. I probably would either just do it with another florist or even give to the charity/fund per request. You could also skip the flowers and do a stone with a little cliche-y type saying (I really do not mean that in an insensitive way-just giving ideas). Also, I am a cold, heartless mother who also would tell her children to get over the "why not me?" stuff. I know some things can be tricky, but you all are doing a lovely job at parenting and somehow i think Brayden will scoot through this whole knighting process. Now see, if you would just homeschool your darling blessings, you could have them at home comparing the whole, "Zach, you have got to be kidding me? I was doing *that* when I was two years younger than you. Duh". It really is beautiful. Really. Best wishes, Tammy in *finally* sunny OhioAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-62384225059971982052008-05-06T22:13:00.000-05:002008-05-06T22:13:00.000-05:00Kristie,I also think the idea of writing a letter ...Kristie,<BR/><BR/>I also think the idea of writing a letter to the editor. I lost my dear son when he was 18 and there were several letters to the editor in our paper from people whose life he had touched. It was so nice to hear what an impact he had in our community and I can always take out the papers I have saved & read how much he meant to others.<BR/><BR/>KarenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-11390344621121727952008-05-06T22:04:00.000-05:002008-05-06T22:04:00.000-05:00Well..our family has dealt with this personally. I...Well..our family has dealt with this personally. I have an aunt that owns a florist. She along with her sisters(one being my mom) did the casket piece when my grandma died. I would suggest asking the funeral home if they have a donation place as that's what we asked of well wishers...people made a donation in her name instead of flowers. Hope this helps.threehandprintshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04414010409396159167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-67388185190224345992008-05-06T21:52:00.000-05:002008-05-06T21:52:00.000-05:00I definitely wouldn't senfd them flowers from anot...I definitely wouldn't senfd them flowers from another florist. Seeing as she was the owner of the florist, I can only imagine how many flowers will already be there at the funeral. Everyone else already beat me to the punch- but I would make a donation in her name to a local charity or plant a tree in her honor. If you feel inclined, you could make a meal for her family and send it over. Cookies would be nice too.Monica Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14767867041043811045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-50137882844663347242008-05-06T21:15:00.000-05:002008-05-06T21:15:00.000-05:00so I just read your post to my teenagers(I have a ...so I just read your post to my teenagers(I have a some to spare if anyone needs a couple lol) and my 15yr old son says, "what matters most, the flowers or were they came from?"<BR/><BR/>he's got a point...Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14359007548643863031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-14258213638650506882008-05-06T21:08:00.000-05:002008-05-06T21:08:00.000-05:00I haven't read the other comments but there are ot...I haven't read the other comments but there are other things you can do/send. Like a pretty stepping stone, or a plaque, there are usually too many throws but that is another option. my mil just fixed up a small clock that was like a mini grandfather clock. She put a little greenery and a pretty bow with it, with a card. It was gorgeous! She got it at Walmart. I would choose to not do flowers because I wouldn't know what would be proper. it would be kinda sad though if there were no flowers.Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14359007548643863031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-42220124313859282582008-05-06T21:01:00.000-05:002008-05-06T21:01:00.000-05:00Love the windshield and bug deal. I'm sure I can w...Love the windshield and bug deal. I'm sure I can work it into the rants here, within the next day or two!<BR/><BR/>I would send money. No doubt, there are bills to be paid, whether for the funeral or for expenses at the flower shop. If you write your reasons in the card you choose, how could anyone fault you?<BR/><BR/>Your kindness is what will matter the most.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-26749498379338437012008-05-06T20:55:00.000-05:002008-05-06T20:55:00.000-05:00Kristi,I was thinking you are so good at scrapbook...Kristi,I was thinking you are so good at scrapbooking could you make a scrapbook about this womans flower shop over the years or something like that.I know it would be hard to make it before the funeral,but you know I always thought people needed more sent to them a week or two after a funeral than during a funeral.Everyone is there to help you during the funeral.I just thought instead of flowers at the funeral why not give them something that will carry on after the funeral..Just a thought.<BR/>Also I think my 11 year old and your 11 year old are somehow related..<BR/>Yesterday my 11 year old needed blood work and 3 people had to hold her down for a tube of blood.I know needles are scary but come on 3 people.Then she came home and bragged about it to her sisters like it was cool. Yes my drama queen.<BR/>Take care and take heart the teens years are not far off...( sigh)<BR/>www.caringbridge.org/visit/hannahpadgettAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-28738516832450057662008-05-06T20:51:00.000-05:002008-05-06T20:51:00.000-05:00That is a hard one...I do know of a woman here tha...That is a hard one...I do know of a woman here that died and she was a long time employee of the local florist (her name was Mrs. Flowers! how appropriate!) I have never seen such beautiful flowers at a funeral. They were a wonderful tribute to someone who loved flowers and arranging them...I also think a donation would be nice...did she have a special pet? Maybe to your local Humane Society? <BR/><BR/>PS..I also liked your plan for Thursday night!<BR/><BR/>Meg from GaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36095574.post-59636879427075414102008-05-06T20:40:00.000-05:002008-05-06T20:40:00.000-05:00I would call and inquire at the funeral home, but ...I would call and inquire at the funeral home, but would also consider calling the flower shop. They might take great pride in creating the arrangements in tribute to their mom. I would most definitely not order flowers from anyone else.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com